September 2019

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Anderson Silva Gets Knocked Out Loses UFC Title

Anderson Silva has suffered his first loss in the UFC.The ex-UFC middleweight champion played around in the ring and showed no respect to his opponent Chris Weidman, who entered the ring very confidently.“It [ticked] me off when someone tries to do that [clown around with] me,” said Weidman, who improved to 10-0.Consequently, the Mixed Martial Arts (MMA) powerhouse and one of the greatest fighters in the history of the sport, got knocked to the mat, losing his long-standing title to Weidman.“I felt I was destined for this,” Weidman said. “I imagined doing this many times in my head, but it’s surreal.” read more

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The Knicks Did This To Themselves

When Carmelo Anthony joined the New York Knicks at the trade deadline six years ago, the team feted his arrival. Just before Anthony, who was born in Brooklyn, was introduced at Madison Square Garden as a Knick for the first time, the team played Diddy’s “Coming Home,” featuring Skylar Grey. The club, formerly led by Amar’e Stoudemire, was now armed with a second star, one who was supposed to change the trajectory of the long-suffering franchise and make it a contender. And for a time, at least on paper, it was hard to argue with the results: After a decade of mostly awful basketball, the Knicks reached the playoffs in each of their first three seasons with Anthony.Fast-forward to today, though, and the team seems to be unraveling with every passing minute. The Knicks keep making headlines for the wrong reasons, whether it’s because their big-name point guard has gone AWOL, their president is putting his foot in his mouth or a fan favorite is being hustled out of the Garden in cuffs.1NBA commissioner Adam Silver said in a Monday statement that he and Charlotte Hornets owner Michael Jordan, a longtime friend of Charles Oakley, the former player who was arrested, spoke with Oakley and Knicks owner Jim Dolan in hopes of the two men moving past the incident. Like last year, when New York fell off the map after a surprising 22-22 start, this year’s team put up a decent record early in the season only to see the wins have dried up and the club fall out of contention.To figure out how the Knicks could be so terrible — it looks likely that they’ll miss the playoffs for a fourth straight year despite having a future Hall of Famer on the roster — look to what the franchise lacks: continuity. Even when it makes the most sense to keep things as they are, the status quo is often upended in New York.The vast majority of that upheaval stems from failures in the front office, but before analyzing that mess, it’s important to note that Anthony isn’t blameless here either. The 32-year-old has shown an unusual degree of loyalty to the city and team he forced a trade to, despite being subjected to the team president’s subtweets and critiques every other month. But he hasn’t exactly been the easiest player to build around. People in the Knicks organization2I was a Knicks beat reporter at The Wall Street Journal for four years. will tell you that Anthony’s never been happy about the physical toll that comes with playing power forward, especially on defense, even though power forward is his most productive position. He also didn’t see eye-to-eye with his first Knicks coach, Mike D’Antoni (who’s now nearly a lock for coach of the year in light of what he’s doing in Houston), though D’Antoni’s quick-trigger, pick-and-roll-based offensive principles should, in theory, have fit Anthony’s game well.But most of the dysfunction is rooted in the Knicks’ front office. Perhaps the most maddening thing about its moves in recent years has been its inability to gauge the direction of the NBA as a whole.It’s hard to picture it now, but the Knicks were once exemplars of the NBA’s push toward more 3-pointers. The 2012-13 Knicks thrived using a two-point-guard system with Anthony at power forward en route to breaking a league record for 3-pointers made and attempted in a single season. They won 54 games — their most in 15 years — and earned the East’s No. 2 seed as Anthony won his first NBA scoring crown.Then, strangely, the Knicks dealt away Steve Novak, their best 3-point shooter (along with a first-round pick and two second-rounders3Marcus Camby and Quentin Richardson were also sent to Toronto as throw-ins, but they never actually played for the Raptors following the trade.), for Andrea Bargnani, who couldn’t really shoot anymore. Later that offseason, owner Jim Dolan axed Glen Grunwald, the team’s general manager, who’d finished tied for third in Executive of the Year voting just months earlier.Then, when Phil Jackson took over as president, he was adamant about using his beloved triangle offense. Teams throughout the NBA borrow from the triangle system, but it’s likely too antiquated to work when used in its entirety because it relies heavily on midrange and post-up shots that have fallen out of favor in today’s efficiency-obsessed NBA. At the same time, Jackson and his first coaching hire, Derek Fisher, seemed to downplay the importance of the three ball in today’s league. And by breaking up a team that was at the forefront of a larger leaguewide trend, the Knicks might have missed an opportunity to develop into an annual playoff contender. Who’s Going Where As The NBA Trade Deadline Approaches? For years, episodes like the Lopez-Rose swap4The trade also included the Knicks sending guards Jerian Grant and Jose Calderon going to Chicago in exchange for swingman Justin Holiday and a second-round pick. — where an element of the team’s continuity is sacrificed in pursuit of a win-now gamble — have clearly been causing problems at the Garden. Since 2000, the Knicks have gone through more coaches than any other team, according to information provided by Elias Sports Bureau. Since the start of the 2008-09 season, they’ve suited up more players than any club. Anthony alone has had five coaches and 79 teammates during his time in New York. Jackson, who’s hired three coaches and cycled through 45 players in less than three years, has done little to slow the game of musical chairs down since becoming team president.Only now does the team seem to be grasping some of the nuances of the collective bargaining agreement and the importance of youth. New York’s front office, which hasn’t re-signed one of its first-round picks to a multi-year deal since Charlie Ward in 1999, deserves credit for having held onto its future first-round selections these past three seasons. The team’s foreign scouting has been solid for years. And the Knicks seem to have learned from past mistakes, signing unheralded free agents to longer, cheaper deals very different from the risky one-year pacts they agreed to with Jeremy Lin and Chris Copeland, who outplayed expectations, then left for bigger paydays elsewhere.Still, none of these relatively straightforward improvements absolve Dolan or Jackson of the mistakes they’ve made, since the team still lacks a clear direction years after this power structure was put in place.Though Dolan finally had the right idea in removing himself from basketball operations and handing those duties over to someone who can guard against Dolan’s urges to meddle with the team, it’s become painfully clear that Dolan should’ve turned to someone who’d done this job before, especially since the job now comes with a $12 million salary.Hopefully Jackson will view his tenure with the Knicks as an education on how vastly different this job is from coaching, but in the meantime, he has faced almost too many challenges (including setting a clear organizational agenda, giving a new coach room to experiment, and building a rapport with his players) to mention.The 71-year-old dealt Tyson Chandler, J.R. Smith and Iman Shumpert but has little to show for them. He has awkwardly straddled the line between trying to win now and trying to reload for the future, and he has made choosing a path harder by including a no-trade clause in Anthony’s contract.For too long, he micromanaged the club’s style of offense as if that was the problem, even though the Knicks are likely to field their 11th bottom-10 defense in the 15 seasons since Jeff Van Gundy resigned. And Jackson’s efforts to motivate his star player by criticising him in the media — which might have worked in the past, when Jackson was a coach and winning rings left and right — have fallen flat, and perhaps made players around the NBA less likely to want to play in New York.A simple dose of normalcy, along with a moment’s pause to take stock of how the rest of the NBA is operating, would go a long way in leading New York back to success, whether Anthony remains a Knick or not.Check out our latest NBA predictions. The Novak trade and the move away from 3-pointers are just two of the many examples of New York cutting experiments short when patience and cultivation might have eventually yielded a positive outcome, or at least prevented a negative one.Take Jackson’s 2015 signing of center Robin Lopez, which, outside of drafting Kristaps Porzingis, might stand as his best acquisition to date. After a solid season in New York — Lopez was arguably the most consistent player on the team in 2015-16, and he improved considerably after the all-star break when he got a better grasp on the offense — the Knicks dealt him away for Derrick Rose, who, because he’s in a contract year, may end up being just a one-season rental.Had the Knicks stood pat with Lopez, it would have spared them the pain of what replaced him: Joakim Noah’s four-year, $72 million contract, which, combined with his age and injury history, makes him seem untradable. (The signing looks borderline disastrous, given that Porzingis should be able to play Noah’s position full time within the next year or so anyway.) Related: Hot Takedown read more

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NFL Week 2 Elo Ratings And Playoff Odds

It’s a cliche: Every game counts in a league that plays just 16 of them. But Benjamin Morris’s findings in his debut Skeptical Football column were nevertheless striking: A Week 1 or Week 2 game can affect an NFL team’s chances of making the playoffs by as much as 20 or 30 percent.We also see that reflected in FiveThirtyEight’s NFL Elo ratings playoff odds, a feature we debuted last week.What are Elo ratings? The short version: Elo ratings are a simple mathematical system originally designed to rate chess players. They’ve since been adapted to a number of sports such as soccer, and we’ve adapted them to the NFL. The Elo ratings only account for fairly basic information like wins and losses, strength of schedule and margin of victory. There are more advanced systems out there, but Elo ratings are transparent, easy to calculate and we can do a lot of fun stuff with them, like simulating the rest of the season and calculating playoff odds. For more on the methodology, see here.In our Week 1 ratings — which were based on a team’s Elo rating at the end of last season — the New England Patriots had a 73 percent chance of making the playoffs and the Miami Dolphins had just a 32 percent chance. But the Dolphins upset the Patriots, and now it’s almost even: New England is at 54 percent to make the playoffs and Miami at 50 percent.Why such a big shift? Well, every game counts (especially a divisional game; our simulation accounts for playoff tiebreakers). But also, the Patriots now look slightly worse than Elo originally pegged them, and the Dolphins look slightly better. Before Week 1, Miami had projected to win 7.7 games; it now projects to win 9.1. In other words, one NFL win for the Dolphins was worth more than one win in the Elo standings because Miami’s Elo rating improved.Here are the latest Elo ratings and playoff odds for all 32 teams:A few other comments:The teams with the largest gains on the week, in addition to the Dolphins, were the Minnesota Vikings, who gained 46 Elo points after demolishing the St. Louis Rams, and the Tennessee Titans, who added 38 Elo points after beating the Kansas City Chiefs. Both Minnesota and Tennessee are now better than even money to make the playoffs; the Titans are helped by playing in the league’s weakest division (although the NFC East might have something to say about that).It’s early, but perhaps we’re seeing the emergence of a Big Three. The Seattle Seahawks are the most likely team to win the Super Bowl, at 16 percent, followed by the San Francisco 49ers at 13 percent and the Denver Broncos at 11 percent. Then there’s a fairly big drop to the Carolina Panthers at 7 percent.Meanwhile, in the it’s-already-time-to-panic department, the Chiefs project to just a 6-10 record and have only a 13 percent chance of making the playoffs.Elo ratings can also be used to derive point spreads. We strongly advise that you don’t bet on these, at least not without considering a lot of other information — Vegas betting lines are too sophisticated to be beaten by a simple system like Elo. Still, it’s fun to track their progress. Last week, they went 8-8 against point spreads as listed at Pro-Football-Reference.com.There are some funky matchups this week. Elo has the Vikings at almost even money at home against New England, while Vegas has the Patriots as 3-point favorites. Another point of disagreement is Seattle at San Diego; Vegas has the Seahawks as 6-point favorites — a lot on the road against a playoff team. Elo thinks they should be favored over the Chargers by a field goal instead. read more

Ohio State mens basketball readies for Michigan after week off

OSU freshman guard D’Angelo Russell (0) attempts a shot over Michigan sophomore guard Derrick Walton Jr. (10) during a game on Jan. 13 at the Schottenstein Center. OSU won, 71-52. Credit: Kelly Roderick / For The LanternOne is the magic number for the Ohio State men’s basketball team ahead of a date with Michigan.The No. 24 Buckeyes (19-7, 8-5) have gone one full week without playing a game, have one game left before returning to Columbus for consecutive home games for the first time since January and they sit one slot away from a top-four spot in the Big Ten.Senior guard Shannon Scott said earning a top-four finish in the regular season would be huge heading into postseason play, but added the Buckeyes won’t let that weigh on their minds.“We know we want to be a top-four team so we can get a bye for the Big Ten Tournament, but we don’t think about that as we play,” Scott said Saturday. “We just want to play our best basketball.”With its fate not firmly in its own hands, OSU is set to take on the Wolverines (13-13, 6-8) on Sunday in Ann Arbor, Mich., while sitting a full game out of fourth place. The team one spot ahead is Michigan State (18-8, 9-4), and the Spartans happen to be the Buckeyes’ most recent opponent.That Valentine’s Day matchup ended in a 59-56 Michigan State win in East Lansing, Mich., after the Spartans knocked down a late 3-pointer. Scott said the loss wasn’t from a lack of effort, but added that the Buckeyes can’t let it affect them going forward.“We played hard that game, they just made one more shot than us basically,” he said. “But we know we can’t take a step back though — this league’s gonna be tough no matter where we go.”Scott said OSU coach Thad Matta gave his players “a couple days off” since the Michigan State game, but noted the Buckeyes have been active in practice all week.“We made sure we didn’t lose a step in our game and came out and tried to stay as conditioned as possible,” he said.Matta agreed that the energy has been high in practice, which he didn’t necessarily expect.“We’ve had a tremendous week of practice,” Matta said Saturday. “I’ve been shocked at their energy and the kind of fire they’ve had in practice.”While the Buckeyes will have had eight days to prepare when their game tips off at 1 p.m. Sunday, they’ll be on the road for the fourth time in their past five games. Throughout the season, road games have been OSU’s kryptonite as the Buckeyes are 3-6 away from home.As OSU gets ready for yet another road trip, Matta noted that redshirt-senior forward Anthony Lee won’t be able to play against the Wolverines, but added that sophomore forward Marc Loving could see an increased role after the bye week.After the matchup with Michigan, OSU is set to take on Nebraska at the Schottenstein Center on Feb. 26 before facing Purdue, Penn State and Wisconsin in the final three games of the regular season.While OSU has work to do before earning a bye week at the Big Ten Tournament, Scott said he’s hopeful the Buckeyes still have a lot of room to improve.“We still have a lot of great basketball left in us,” he said. “It’s coming down to the end of the year where we gotta pick it up, but I feel like as a team we still have a lot to do and a lot to prove, so I’m happy about that.” read more

Single men will get the right to start a family under new

first_imgDr David Adamson, one of the authors of the new standards, said: “The definition of infertility is now written in such a way that it includes the rights of all individuals to have a family, and that includes single men, single women, gay men, gay women.”It puts a stake in the ground and says an individual’s got a right to  reproduce whether or not they have a partner. It’s a big change.”It fundamentally alters who should be included in this group and who should  have access to healthcare. It sets an international legal standard.  Countries are bound by it.”  Under the new terms, heterosexual single men and women, and gay men and  women who want to have children would be given the same priority as couples seeking IVF because of medical fertility problems.  I think it’s trying to put IVF into a box that it doesn’t fit into  franklyGareth Johnson MP The new definitions drawn up by WHO’s international committee monitoring  assisted reproductive technology will be sent to every health minister for  consideration next year.  Sperm and egg “Because wanting to have children would be defined as a disability, it  could well strengthen the case of gay couples to be allowed access to  commercial surrogates,” he said. “This might force the UK to think again about surrogacy.”  Want the best of The Telegraph direct to your email and WhatsApp? Sign up to our free twice-daily  Front Page newsletter and new  audio briefings. However, he said it was unlikely that the NHS would adopt the WHO standards  wholesale.  The legal expert said there could be other consequences to altering the  definition of infertility. In the UK, it is illegal to pay surrogates, resulting in a severe shortage  of women wanting to take on the role.  Similarly, there is a national shortage of sperm and eggs, with donors only  able to receive expenses.  IVF Critics last night called the decision “absurd nonsense” as they raised concerns that couples with medical infertility could lose the chance for a child if NHS authorities rewrite their rules. Under current NHS policies, fertility treatment is only funded for those  proven infertile, and those where fertility is unexplained but attempts at conception have failed. Guidance from the National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (Nice) says women under the age of  42 should be offered three full cycles of IVF, with access for same-sex  couples if surrogacy or privately funded fertility treatment fails. But few areas achieve this, with rationing deepening across the NHS amid  financial pressures. Last month figures from the charity Fertility Fairness  showed the real provision of free IVF on the NHS is at its lowest since 2004.  The Department for Health said it would consider the WHO’s final advice when published but the NHS was under no obligation to follow itCredit:Dominic Lipinski/PA NHS Single men and women without medical issues will be classed as “infertile” if they do not have children but want to become a parent, the World Health Organisation is to announce.In a move which dramatically changes the definition of infertility, the WHO will declare that it should no longer be regarded as simply a medical condition.The authors of the new global standards said the revised definition gave every individual “the right to reproduce”.Until now, the WHO’s definition of infertility – which it classes as a disability – has been the failure to achieve pregnancy after 12 months or more of regular unprotected sex. Josephine Quintavalle,from Comment on Reproductive Ethics said: “This  absurd nonsense is not simply re-defining infertility but completely  side-lining the biological process and significance of natural intercourse  between a man and a woman. “How long before babies are created and grown on request completely in the  lab?” A Department of Health spokesman said it would consider the WHO’s final advice when published but the NHS was under no obligation to follow it. The controversy broke as the American Society for Reproductive Medicine  annual congress heard that the 10 millionth IVF baby would be born by the  end of 2020. Official figures estimate that by 2013 6.5 million had been born using the  technique since the first IVF birth in 1978.  Pregnant woman  It puts a stake in the ground and says an individual’s got a right to  reproduce whether or not they have a partnerDr David Adamson There is a national shortage of donor sperm and eggsCredit:Dr Dennis Kunkel  But the new standard suggests that the inability to find a suitable sexual partner – or the lack of sexual relationships which could achieve conception – could be considered an equal disability.The World Health Organisation sets global health standards and its ruling  is likely to place pressure on the NHS to change its policy on who can access IVF treatment. Legal experts said the new definition, which will be sent out to every health minister next year, may force a law change, allowing the introduction of commercial surrogacy. However the ruling is also likely to lead to accusations that that the body  has overstepped its remit by moving from its remit of health into matters  of social affairs. Gareth Johnson MP, former chair of the All Parliamentary Group on  Infertility, whose own children were born thanks to fertility treatment  said: “I’m in general a supporter of IVF. But I’ve never regarded  infertility as a disability or a disease but rather a medical matter. “I’m the first to say you should have more availability of IVF to infertile  couples but we need to ensure this whole subject retains credibility. “This definition runs the risk of undermining the work Nice and others have  done to ensure IVF treatment is made available for infertile couples when  you get definitions off the mark like this. I think it’s trying to put IVF into a box that it doesn’t fit into  frankly.” Jonathan Montgomery, Professor of Health Care Law at University College  London, said the health service would be forced to review its policies in  light of the new standards.  The inability to find a partner to have a baby with could be considered a disabilityCredit: Katie Collins/PA The definition could have an impact on IVF provisionCredit:Sebastian Kaulitzki/Gettylast_img read more

Tom Hardy claims playing modern film heroes is boring because actors are

first_imgHardy played Jewish gangster Alfie Solomons in BBC Two’s Peaky Blinders Credit: Robert Viglasky Playing modern heroes in blockbuster movies is “boring” because actors are expected to look like vegan health fanatics who go to the gym all the time, Tom Hardy has claimed.The actor, who stars as an adventurer in new BBC One drama Taboo, compared Harrison Ford’s Indiana Jones in the 1980s to the modern-day Thor as he claimed parts often no longer allow actors to express “personal characteristics”. Hardy, 39, made his big-screen debut in 2001 in war thriller Black Hawk Down and has gone onto bag major roles in The Dark Knight Rises and Mad Max: Fury Road.  His latest role in Taboo, an eight-episode costume drama which he created alongside his father, Edward “Chips” Hardy, sees him play James Delaney, a haunted adventurer who has just returned from Africa to find his father has died.He is said to be thrilled the show is being aired on the BBC and placed within the traditional period drama context, which was an “essential element” for him.  The actor compared Harrison Ford’s Indiana Jones in the 1980s to the modern-day Thor as he claimed parts often no longer allow actors to express “personal characteristics” The actor compared Harrison Ford’s Indiana Jones in the 1980s to the modern-day Thor as he claimed parts often no longer allow actors to express “personal characteristics”Credit: Moviestore/REXcenter_img In an interview with the Sunday Times magazine, he said film heroes were now “the homogenised sort of eight-pack, tanned, straight-teeth, physicalised” men, with those who play them having to appear to be “clean living” and “moralistic”.“You’ve got to look like you’ve just come off a vegan diet, gone to the gym, part Navy Seal, really clean valued, clean-living, moralistic – and then you go out and save the world from an impending danger that isn’t really dangerous at all,” he said.“And it becomes not committed to any sense of the gubbins of reality: I don’t recognise this man.” Want the best of The Telegraph direct to your email and WhatsApp? Sign up to our free twice-daily  Front Page newsletter and new  audio briefings. Hardy played Jewish gangster Alfie Solomons in BBC Two's Peaky Blinders last_img read more

Smiling Queen charms Maundy Money recipients at Leicester Cathedral

first_imgThe Queen has marked Maundy Thursday by handing out Maundy Money – a tradition dating back to the 13th century.Accompanied by the Duke Of Edinburgh, she was in high spirits as she distributed coins to 91 men and 91 women at Leicester Cathedral.Hundreds of well-wishers lined the route from Leicester station to the cathedral – where the last Plantagenet king, Richard III, is buried – in a bid to catch a glimpse of the royal visitors. Mr Cassidy admitted he was “quite nervous” before being handed the money.The 70-year-old said: “It was just amazing to have her so close to me and such a gentle person. The Queen, wearing a deep jade dress, matching coat and hat by Angela Kelly, gave two bags to each of the 182 recipients, who were chosen in recognition of the service they have provided to the community and church.Among them was Ted Cassidy, who said: “It’s been such a wonderful occasion – she’s amazing because she smiled at every single person and then spoke to the children at the end.”I thought ‘She’s just incredible, a wonderful woman’.”I got a surprise letter four months ago and I couldn’t believe it, it was such a wonderful surprise.” The service is taking place at Leicester Cathedral Another recipient, Mavis Moore, from Ashfordby, said: “It was an experience, I couldn’t believe it.”The 86-year-old added: “I’ve been excited and telling everyone since I found out.”Jane Gumbs, of Beaumont Leys, said: “It was really nice, lovely, and to see the Queen – it was amazing.”She looked young.”I never thought I would ever meet the Queen in my life.”The Queen handed two purses – one white and one red – to each person during the service at the cathedral in the East Midlands city, and has now conducted the Maundy service in every Anglican cathedral in England.The red purse contained a £5 coin, commemorating the Centenary of the House of Windsor and a 50p coin commemorating Sir Isaac Newton, while the white purse containing uniquely minted Maundy coins, equating in pence to her age.The Royal Maundy is an ancient ceremony which originated in the commandment Christ gave after washing the feet of his disciples the day before Good Friday.center_img Want the best of The Telegraph direct to your email and WhatsApp? Sign up to our free twice-daily  Front Page newsletter and new  audio briefings. The service is taking place at Leicester CathedralCredit:John Giles/PA “What a great honour, it’s fantastic.”The service included Handel’s Zadok The Priest, which is used as the Champions League anthem and is familiar in the area following Leicester City’s footballing exploits.last_img read more

It was just like the images of 911 Firefighter tells of war

first_imgA firefighter working near the tower block Firefighters near the tower blockCredit:Reuters A firefighter working near the tower blockCredit:Reuters “To see a whole 24-storey building go up in flames – how does that happen? How does that happen in a first world country? How it happens in London in 2017 is anyone’s guess.” Smoke billows from a fire that has engulfed the 27-storey Grenfell Tower in west LondonCredit: Rick Findler/PA Wire Firefighters near the tower block Want the best of The Telegraph direct to your email and WhatsApp? Sign up to our free twice-daily  Front Page newsletter and new  audio briefings. Describing the carnage and desperation of people trapped in their flats, he added: “One of my colleagues was hit by someone who jumped out of a window. A firefighter who helped tackle the Grenfell Tower blaze has compared the scene to a “war zone”.The emergency worker, called Terry, who spent eight hours working at the scene in North Kensington, said he had “seen nothing like it” during his 27 years with the fire service. Smoke billows from a fire that has engulfed the 27-storey Grenfell Tower in west London Terry said he went up as far as the 10th floor, adding: “The amount of kit that this job has absorbed from the London Fire Brigade is unbelievable. It’s like a war zone here.”The firefighter, who worked in the aftermath of the IRA bombing at Canary Wharf in 1996, said no amount of planning could prepare the emergency services to deal with a fire so catastrophic. “There was one small staircase that everyone was going up. It was just like the images of 9/11.”We were going up the staircase and people were coming down in smoke. I don’t know how they were breathing.” He told LBC Radio: “We had to literally run under police riot shields because of the amount of flaming debris, just to get into the building.last_img read more

Watch Teenage Grenfell survivor renders council members speechless

first_img Want the best of The Telegraph direct to your email and WhatsApp? Sign up to our free twice-daily  Front Page newsletter and new  audio briefings. Rhianna a 17-year-old Grenfell fire survivor boldly held council members to account for the lack of support she and her family have received since the fire said at the resident’s meeting.last_img

How to explain the horror of terrorism to your children

first_imgTerror in Spain: Dozens killed and injured in Barcelona and Cambrils The perpetratorsYou should talk about a bad action or behaviour – not bad people. Ms Allen explains: “A lot of our work is with families bereaved through murder.With children, you must be careful about the language: people aren’t bad – it’s something bad that they’ve done – this helps prevent anxiety in children, and fears that ‘bad people’ are coming to get them.”Social media awarenessSecondary school aged children will have come across news about the attacks already on social media. Remind them that some of the things they have read there may be incorrect. Have a conversation with your child about what they think has happened.Talk about the images they’ve seen – these can be more powerful than words.If they see an image, and haven’t had a conversation with someone they trust, they will build up these images something that is so big that it’s unmanageable for them; you don’t want a child to start fantasising that someone is going to come after them.Promote peaceWhen I have spoken to my children, who are primary and pre-school age, about previous terror attacks, I’ve tried to shift their focus towards the coming together people in the aftermath, and the work people around the world to keep everyone safe. Shield themFrom certain politicians’ dangerous reactions – for example, Jeb Bush saying terrorists in Paris were carrying out “an organised attempt to destroy Western civilisation,” these men were granted more power than they have.This hysteria is exactly what the people carrying out these acts want. And it is exactly this sort of hysteria that we, as parents, need to protect our children from.Instead, this is the sentiment we need to spread: that the majority of the world wants peace.As Fred ‘Mr’ Rogers, the American children’s television host and one of my childhood heroes, was fond of saying; “Whenever there is a catastrophe, always look for the helpers – because if you look for the helpers, then you’ll know there’s hope.”A version of this article was first published on 17 November 2015. It has been updated to reflect recent events Want the best of The Telegraph direct to your email and WhatsApp? Sign up to our free twice-daily  Front Page newsletter and new  audio briefings.center_img As parents, there is a constant temptation to shield our children from bad news. But sometimes, and in particular with acts of terrorism, bad news is unavoidable – it’s in on television, it’s on social media, and it’s on our minds.Experts from the Royal College of Psychiatrists have advised that parents should be honest with their children about terror attacks. “We would not advise hiding your child from what may be on the news or social media,” said Dr Bernadka Dubicka, chairwoman-elect of RCP’s child and adolescent psychiatry faculty. “They will inevitably learn about it from their friends, so it’s best to be honest with them about what has happened.Yet how exactly do you go about explaining to a young child that 13 people have been killed in a van attack in Barcelona?Gemma Allen, a senior bereavement counsellor at Winston’s Wish, Britain’s leading charity for bereaved children,  offers the following tips for talking to children about terrorist attacks.Language mattersFor children of all ages, the most important thing is to reassure them that they are safe. Don’t get into the political context with primary-aged children. That may come up in conversation with older children, but the importance at any age is offering the reassurance that they are safe. For pre-school children, use concrete language: don’t say “This person went to sleep” or “We’ve lost that person” – because that could instil fear or anxiety in that child about going to sleep. And what does lost mean? They’re lost at the shops? Be accurate and mindful of the impact of your language.Age-appropriate conversationsFor pre-school, think about how much exposure they’ve had. Maybe they’ve overheard the news, so the conversation could be quite brief: acknowledge what has happened, and say that lots of people have died as a result of a really bad incident. You can say that we don’t know why this has happened.As the parent or teacher or carer, the most important part is to offer reassurance: this is very unusual, there are lots of safety checks in place to protect us.Use age-appropriate language, and be aware of what your child understands: do they really know what “died” means? It’s usually not until the age of 5 or 6 that children understand that death is permanent.With primary school, the majority will understand what “dead” means. So it may be that you can add details – you may be able to sit down and watch the 6 o’clock news together.last_img read more